Mystery: Conversation Tips

1. Be a talkative person. Talk to anybody, not just girls. Get into the zone.

2. Don’t explicitly try to impress or show off. Don’t directly tell impressive facts about yourself. Don’t seek attention, approval, or understanding from others. Hot women are already bothered enough by guys who are worried what she thinks. Try being the one guy who isn’t.

3. Don’t talk about weird, creepy, or stupid topics. Most people who do this are seeking attention. It’s cool to get attention, but it’s very uncool to be perceived as seeking it. Thus, don’t provoke people or show off to them in any way.

4. Practice moving your target and getting her into isolation for comfort-building.

5. Demonstrate vulnerability and establish commonality and connection.

6. Practice stacks of canned material. This is a useful skill.

Also practice natural, spontaneous conversations with no canned material.

7. Practice using Multiple Conversational Threads.

8. Continually escalate kino and use compliance testing.

9. For those readers versed in NLP, this phase is a good time to practice your patterning.

10. Cut boring threads, yours or hers. Lead the frame.

11. Talk about fun, interesting, emotionally compelling topics.

12. Don’t ask a bunch of questions. They don’t add value and they come off rapport-seeking. Instead of asking her where she’s from, make a guess. She’ll ask you why you guessed Arkansas, you’ll give her a reason, and she’ll giggle — whether you were right or not.

(You do want her to contribute and invest 111 the conversation. But you want her to do so because she is attracted, not because you are forcing the conversation along with lots of questions. You must add value.)

13. Be agreeable. You don’t always have to be right. Don’t take yourself too seriously. For example, don’t use disagreement unless you need to enforce a frame. If you’re arguing about something you probably care too much. Remember why you’re here.

14. Rapport doesn’t mean boring. The vibe you created in the Attract stage should still be simmering just below the surface.